Sex with gay women
The lesbians who touch pressured to hold sex and relationships with trans women
BBC News
Is a lesbian transphobic if she does not want to have sex with trans women? Some lesbians say they are increasingly creature pressured and coerced into accepting transsexual women as partners - then shunned and even threatened for speaking out. Several have spoken to the BBC, along with transgender women who are concerned about the issue too.
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"I've had someone saying they would rather kill me than Hitler," says 24-year-old Jennie*.
"They said they would strangle me with a belt if they were in a room with me and Hitler. That was so bizarrely vicious, just because I won't have sex with trans women."
Jennie is a woman-loving woman woman. She says she is only sexually attracted to women who are biologically female and have vaginas. She therefore only has sex and relationships with women who are biologically female.
Jennie doesn't think this should be controversial, but not everyone agrees. She has been described as transphobic, a genital fetishist, a pervert and a "terf"
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Like many fresh women who later identify as queer, I was the young woman at the party often establish kissing other girls. And in case you’re picturing a sweaty mob of frat boys cheering us on, this wasn’t that. These were smaller groups of friends drinking in the woods together, or intimate gatherings of horny theater kids. Sure, I liked the exhibitionism of it—and that was definitely part of the motivation—but I wasn’t just doing it for attention. Even back then, I knew I liked girls—I just didn’t include the vocabulary for it. I wasn’t an isolated, repressed, small-town queer kid, though. I went to a diverse arts magnet school in Denver, I had plenty of gay friends, and I received an unusually comprehensive sex education through a program called About Your Sexuality at my highly progressive Unitarian Universalist church. I was about as sex-positive as a young person could be.
During those years, I enjoyed the comfort of conformity. I had a rebellious streak, but it was a carefully calculat
How Do Lesbians Have Sex? 28 Things to Grasp Before Your First Time
Often, people assume that lesbians can’t get pregnant, or that lesbian sex can’t result in pregnancy. That’s a myth based on the assumption that both women are cisgender.
If one partner is trans and has a penis and the other is cisgender and has a vagina, they can possess penis-in-vagina sex.
In many cases, this means that pregnancy is possible.
If you want to avoid pregnancy, talk to your companion about birth control.
This may include a combination of hormonal contraception, like the pill, and condoms.
Here are a few ways to reduce your risk of STIs and other infections:
- Dental dams.Use these if you’re performing oral sex, either on the vagina or the anus.
- External condoms. You can use these for penis-in-vagina sex, penis-in-anus sex, or oral sex on penises.
- Internal condoms. You can use these for penis-in-vagina sex or penis-in-anus sex.
- Gloves or finger cots.These can protect you during manual-genital stimulation, such as fingering, hand jobs, and clitoral stimulation. They may sense more comfortable when used with lube.
- Hand hygiene. When it comes to fingering, clitoral
Sexual health for lesbian and fluid women
Women who have sex with other women can pass on or get STIs. Recognize how to preserve yourself.
Women can collect STIs such as chlamydia when exchanging bodily fluids.
Herpes and genital warts can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact. This includes oral sex or using the same hand when touching yourself and then your partner.
Tips for safer sex between women
- If you're using sex toys, use a new condom for each partner or between penetration of different body openings. Sex toys should be washed with soap and moisture between sessions.
- Avoid oral sex if either of you has any cuts or sores in the mouth or on the lips, or use a dental dam. A dental dam is a latex or polyurethane (very thin, mild plastic) square, of about 15cm by 15cm, which you can use to cover the anus or female genitals during oral sex. It acts as a barrier to help prevent sexually transmitted infections passing from one person to another.
- Some infections can be transmitted by hands, fingers and shared vulval rubbing. Wash your hands before and after sex.
- Wear latex gloves and employ plenty of water-based lubricant for vaginal and anal fisting.
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