How to see if your friend is gay
Frequently Asked Questions
How Do I Assist My Gay Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How execute I help my gay friend?” This is a scrutinize we hear constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago not many Christians asked this question, for not many knew any matching gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were unaware to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of similar gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this interrogate is of utmost importance in glow of the alter of our identity and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly speak about their issues. So how does one help a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend realize Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to aide a friend deal with her sexual attractions. This is because there are two different ro
Understanding the Situation
Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your ally might be homosexual, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their persona or you reflect they might own feelings for you, it’s important to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.
Here are some common signs that might indicate your friend is lgbtq+ and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.
1. They Evade Talking About Their Love Life
If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is comfortable talking about every other aspect of their animation, it might be because they’re not ready to debate their sexual orientation.
Examples:
- They change the subject when someone asks about their virtual dating life.
- They rarely refer any romantic interests.
- They seem uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.
This doesn’t necessarily denote they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.
2. They Show a Strong Interest in LGBTQ+ Topics
When Your Best Friend Tells You He's Gay
Gay people are engaged in an ongoing struggle to have their rights recognized and respected. As a straight person talking primarily to other straights. I hope to support all who are oppressed because of their sexual orientation. The emphasis on gay men as opposed to lesbians is only a reflection of my personal knowledge.
A year ago, no one I knew was openly gay. My contact with homosexuality until then was probably quite standard. When I was seven, my mother talked to me about people called "fairies." She warned me to watch out for them, explaining that their existence was a pity for them and a nuisance for the relax of us. From then on, the issue was absent from conversation at home, except when something about Anita Bryant came on the news. We all regarded Anita as somewhat off the wall, but not out of any deeply felt views on homosexuality. At school, the words "gay" and "fag" were used only as insults to students so awkward or unpopular that the term "wimp" would not do. Homosexuality was spotlighted only once: when the women's studies class invited a queer woman to speak and half the parents called up to complain.
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When Your Best Friend Tells You He's Gay
Gay people are engaged in an ongoing struggle to have their rights recognized and respected. As a straight person talking primarily to other straights. I hope to support all who are oppressed because of their sexual orientation. The emphasis on gay men as opposed to lesbians is only a reflection of my personal knowledge.
A year ago, no one I knew was openly gay. My contact with homosexuality until then was probably quite standard. When I was seven, my mother talked to me about people called "fairies." She warned me to watch out for them, explaining that their existence was a pity for them and a nuisance for the relax of us. From then on, the issue was absent from conversation at home, except when something about Anita Bryant came on the news. We all regarded Anita as somewhat off the wall, but not out of any deeply felt views on homosexuality. At school, the words "gay" and "fag" were used only as insults to students so awkward or unpopular that the term "wimp" would not do. Homosexuality was spotlighted only once: when the women's studies class invited a queer woman to speak and half the parents called up to complain.
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